Welcome to Ask Clare, our advice column. Have a question, dilemma, or quandary? Sent it to Clare in an email or on her Facebook page.
Clare,
My husband snores. A lot. I am writing you after only three hours of sleep. I just don’t know what to do. He’s tried breathing strips, losing a few pounds and more but nothing is working. We have a spare room and I would like to ask him if he (or I) could sleep there but I am worried it will hurt our relationship. Any advice?
— Sleepy wife
Sleepy wife,
Next time you wake up to snoring, escape to the guest room to see how you sleep. Talk to your husband in the morning and let him know you relocated. This should open a conversation about sleeping separately for a bit. Also, have him talk to his doctor about the snoring. Be sure to let your husband know you’ll still share plenty of time in the bedroom regardless of the sleep situation…if you know what I mean. Sex. I’m talking about sex.
Clare
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Clare,
I’m super jealous of my roommate, ‘Lara’. I have a big crush on her boyfriend, ‘James’. They just started dating but Lara has told me that she is still seeing other guys even though James thinks they are exclusive. He is funny, smart and nice – a diamond in the rough in the desert. I know he and Lara won’t last. My question is how long I should wait until I try to put myself out there to connect with James.
— Ready roommate
Ready roommate,
You may not want to set your sights on James – even if your roommate is getting busy with others. Lara may decide to get more serious with him. If not, you’ll learn a lot about the guy through how he handles the breakup. Either way, keep your eyes open for a guy of your own. Try a group outing to La Quinta Brewing Company with some of James’ friends – they may be cool, too. If Lara and James do break up down the line and you’re still interested in pursuing James, talk with Lara first and only after she’s on to her next victim.
Clare
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Clare,
I’m a recently divorced dad and I share custody of my teenaged daughter with my wife. Since I have a few nights a week and every other weekend alone, I’m looking to get more involved in the community. What are some ways to be more plugged in? –- Daring dad
Daring dad,
It’s great that you want to invest time in getting to know your community better. There are plenty of organizations (and cougars) out there that would be lucky to have you. Desert Charities News has a pretty comprehensive list of local nonprofits. It really depends on what your interested in – there’s a little something for everyone. There are also civic groups. Think Citizens on Patrol or Leadership Coachella Valley. Good luck!
Clare
